Module Four
Module Four
Reading and Reflections
Read from your chosen book, underline and make notes as you read. Perhaps underlining sentences that 1) resonate deeply with you, 2) offer a new concept or idea, or 3) you do not agree with entirely. Make notes in the margins or journal for our discussion. Your reflections and notations will be part of the continuing conversation of your experience of transformation through loss.
Journaling
Continue to journal about anything that shows up for you that feels significant. Notice the patterns of your life or the emerging patterns, and make notes about these and anything else that feels emotionally important. How does it feel to intentionally value your losses? How does it feel to offer self-compassion and self-care? You may want to reflect on earlier notes and homework as you do your relationship graph.
Ritual Action: Relationship Reflection
When you come into your space to do your work for the module, begin or open the space in a particular way that acknowledges your support and intentions. Offer yourself compassion; acknowledge the depth of the losses you have experienced. Value those losses, both in their pain and learnings.
Engage one of the self-care practices suggested, or create one of your own to do daily.
If you are able to work from the competed loss inventory, choose one of your losses (one of the more intense/longer lines from the graph) or the loss that brought you into this work. Locate this loss within the context of a relationship. Create another time time line for this relationship marking the significant milestones, memories, or events that create the context for your relationship with this person. As you consider the relationship, make marks on the line for the major events that define this relationship. There should be both up lines (pleasant and connecting experiences) and down lines (difficult or disconnecting experiences). These lines also show the intensity of the experience with their length. The longer lines represent the more intensely connecting or disconnecting moments within the relationship.
Practices: Self-care Check list, Self-care practices, Seven Stones Image, and The wonderous Pool
Complete the loss inventory for any events that were left incomplete during our last session. If this is too difficult to do on your own, please know we can complete this exercise in the safety and support of our sessions. You can always take as much time as you require on any of these modules.
