Broken hearts are heavy. But, if we have been walking around for a while with one, we may not recognize its weight and burden. To address our broken heart requires great courage.
In Grief Recovery, we talk about courage. Not the courage of a superhero who rescues children from a burning building. We talk about courage in its most original connotation. Brené Brown’s eloquent description of courage provides depth and insight into a word that has often been misused to mean brave. Courage, from the Latin root cor meaning heart, is to speak from the heart. When we speak the truth, the emotional truth, of all that sits within our heart, we are courageous beings willing to be vulnerable, receptive to being healed.
Each week, when the individuals in Grief Recovery walk through the door of the Learning Center, I witness great courage. I do not know what any person carries, the traumas, the regrets, the pain, until they honor their commitment to show up and speak honestly, openly, from their heart. It is in these moments of courage, whether we are speaker or witness, that we truly can connect to another being.
As I continue to do this work with so many courageous people, the depth of this work impresses me. It is not just speaking the details of what has happened. It is each person’s willingness to feel again, or maybe feel for the first time, the emotions of the events that burden their lives. Heavy is the anger that causes our feet to drag, our goals to remain distant, and our relationships tinted by the past. Sorrow and regret keep us anchored in the past, preventing us from enjoying the present fully, from seeing our future clearly.
For those who commit to courageous moments, there is not only relief from a heavy heart but a new way of walking the earth more complete, more connected, more alive.